“If you look for perfection, you'll never be content.”
― Leo Tolstoy
― Leo Tolstoy
I received a few texts from a friend today pointing out some flaws in a recent blog post. He noted the "disconnected rambling" and the fact that I had alluded to having a private conversation with the glassware. There were a couple of other points he made and then let me know that I could use an editor. After he had made a few statements, I let him know that my feelings were hurt. (Which is SO HUGE for me...normally I would have been passive-aggressively bitchy back...I am growing UP!)
OK, here's the thing about me and blogging: I do it for the therapeutic value it provides and because, on occasion, something I say resonates with SOMEONE. I REALIZE that I mix my tenses. I have typos. I do. Sometimes my grammar is out of whack. And I appreciate it when people send me a note to let me know I've misspelled something...but, please believe me: I am hard ENOUGH on MYSELF. While I know that feedback helps me to grow, I would prefer that it be a piece here and there and maybe not a whole list of things I'm doing wrong. Now, if another (wildly successful) blogger I admire gave me a big giant list of ways to improve I would be super stoked about that because a) they've been in my shoes and have worked hard on their craft, and b) it would mean that a wildly successful blogger I admire is READING MY STUFF.
This process is allowing me to freely create. Everything you read is the result of about a 15-25 minute stream of consciousness. I don't plan. I don't agonize. I just write. I do it because it makes me FEEL better. I do it because I have this overwhelming need to put words down in some semblance of order. I do it because I love the process of writing.
Would I LOVE to be a "real writer?" Of course I would. But, for now, I'm not. I don't have an editor. I don't WANT one right now. I do understand that I NEED one because a lot of what I do IS rambling. It's inconsistent. And a lot of it isn't very good. But SOME of it is. And...the bottom line is: It makes me HAPPY.
My friend and I worked it out. He claimed he loves me AND my blog (although I have my doubts, believe me). I love him, too. And I respect his criticism and his (often ignored) advice. Hopefully next time he will offer up ONE criticism or, at most, TWO instead of a laundry list of imperfections.
I am really at peace with my flaws on AND off the blogosphere. Here's hoping that everyone else can just accept me, too. Everyone's a critic. Sheesh. :) Be sure to read the fine print at the bottom of every blog post I write.
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― Salvador Dalí